17 August 2020

Upside down or right-side up? Celebrations down under…

I’ve been thinking & reading a lot lately about the history & colonisation of New Zealand & how & why things have become part of the way things are done & celebrated in New Zealand.

One of the things that really started my thoughts towards the things we celebrate is the discussion around Matariki & if we should make it a public holiday here. Celebrations in a society show what we place value on. What we celebrate shows what we honour & what is important to us.

Matariki is the Maori New Year & celebrated in June or July dependant on the moon phases & stars. The first question in my mind was why would the New Year have been in the middle of winter? In my short span of life and due to my cultural bias I understand that New Year is in the height of summer…but for what reason? I had to think this through a bit more. 

The seasons, moon & stars play a big role in your life rhythms when you live from the land.  You are more in tune with so many different parts of the food chain, such as how hard it was to produce or gather that food source, how scarce or plentiful it might be, how long you had to wait for it and whether it was the right season to plant it.

I can imagine that the celebrations and or rest days that each society had would be very closely tied to planting and harvesting, which was what your basic survival rose & fell on. Holidays and celebrations would be in direct relationship with hard work.  

I can imagine that the rhythm of a year tied to the land might go something like this…

Starting with the new hope of spring, with a spring in your step you sense the world awakening, its time to plant & plan and set things in motion.  New life, new birth, lambs, daffodils, things that were hidden or hibernating or germinating spring forth.  Even the word makes sense for this season!

This is a period of hard work, but also enjoyable as you look forward to what is to come. A new year, a new season – HOPE. Excitement of the first fruits of your labour would be a natural celebration in this season.

Then comes summer, the hotter months where maybe you don’t have as much energy, but you can tend to your crops just the little they need and rest and enjoy some summer fun. 
I can imagine some family celebrations fitting into this season amongst the maintenance of your hard spring work.  The summ
er equinox would be the height of daylight & if you slept by the sun then summer wouldn’t afford you much rest. 

Autumn or in American terms Fall (which makes more sense in terms of word meaning – like Spring) would appear to be the next peak of work after the summer lull. 

As you harvest the crops you had planted in spring, your survival of winter is dependant on this season just as much as the beginning of the year.  Another period of hard work as you bring in the harvest, store it, tidy up & finish off the season.  Harvest festival & thanksgiving celebrations make sense in this time period, especially towards the end of the period as a sense of satisfaction would be prominent.

As Autumn/Fall finishes and the days draw closer you body is signalling a time to slow down, hunker by the fire, time to do some indoor projects and learning that the other seasons haven’t afforded you the time for.  I can imagine this would be a time of reflection on the past season,

the good times, the sad times, people who have passed & a chance to decide what you will take with you into the new year & what you will pack and leave in the past.  Matariki as a celebration would fall into this season. 

As I have described these seasons, I feel a sense of natural rhythms, one that our bodies respond to.  It is only in very recent times that society no longer has to base their eating, sleeping & buying habits around seasons.  I can now easily go to the supermarket and buy strawberries in the middle of winter and because of this we are not so in tune with the seasons & how our bodies and society are naturally based around these simple things. 

Not only that, but in New Zealand our yearly celebrations and a lot of our public holidays have been cut and pasted from our colonial past.  Not only do a lot of them not have much relevance to our society or culture today (such as Guy Fawkes!) they were implemented into our calendar without any thought for the fact that our country is in the southern hemisphere with the seasons at opposite times of the year from Mother England who are in the northern hemisphere.  On the surface, this may seem a bit obvious but when you think a bit harder it makes you wonder why we have Easter (which is a Spring festival based around new life) in the middle of Autumn?

The ground swell to celebrate Matariki in New Zealand is a great start & I think it would be good for us to have this as part of calendar.  It is also good to see the reasons behind it and what it is about, being taught in schools so our children and hopefully society has some idea behind the celebration, which give us more meaning that “just another day off”.

I would love to see the discussion go further and deeper though and decide on what the 10-12 public holidays in New Zealand we should have and what they are for.  At the moment a good portion of them are devoid of meaning and don’t fit into our normal rhythms of life.

We have the freedom next year to choose what we celebrate & when we take holidays as we will be homesechooling. I think this is an awesome opportunity to “reset” and decide what our rhythms might look like, which will be totally subject to change & revision.  I have outlined them below as a draft idea.  I have chosen not to bother with marking Queens birthday or Anniversary Day as these at this point don’t carry much meaning for me.  

 

My suggestions and a bit more explanation of how our family might try to make it work…

SPRING – HOPE                            Sept, Oct, Nov

1.     Easter – a long weekend celebration remembering Jesus death & resurrection.

2.    Arbour Day & Labour Day – use this long weekend to plant a tree & a garden & dig a bit deeper into why both of these days are important.

 

SUMMER – FUN                            Dec, Jan, Feb

1.     Christmas – a  2 day celebration with family.  Unfortunately tradition Christmas has become commercialised with spend $$$ on junk – that connotation is present even in the name “Boxing Day”. So we will reclaim this as a family day, with no presents – just a good family celebration.  Maybe a day for each side of the family?  

2.    Waitangi Day – based on its historic date we will choose a unique way each year to celebrate this, helping us to understand the past better & what our country is founded on.  This could coincide with a 7-10 day tenting holiday.

 

AUTUMN/FALL – HARVEST              Mar, April, May

1.     Thanksgiving – a feast with family & friends to remind ourselves of how blessed we are.  Be a good thing here to invite others too who are homeless or struggling.

2.    ANZAC – using this day to be thankful & remember those who have sacrificed for us.  Depending on the child’s age each year will determine what we do.

 

WINTER – REFLECTION                   June, July, Aug

1.     Matariki & New Year – celebrated with a good meal, friends & family, fire & fireworks.

    Retreat - Rest break – a 7-10 day holiday to re-gather our thoughts & plan, dream & visions for the next year.  A weekend retreat away as a couple could be a part of this.  




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30 April 2020

I hear a rumbling...

Well its been quite a few years since I have done a blog post - but I feel as though I have a lot to say & need a place to say it...

So here goes...

The rumbling is not my tummy, the rumbling is a disquiet of what is being feed to us by the media & government, and for some reason everyone is buying it hook line and sinker without questioning anything & those who even vaguely question anything get slammed!

I do feel torn, as I like the decisiveness of our government & the communication has been pretty heart warming from "Aunty Jacinda". Yes there have been some gains & closing the borders (which is the source of the virus for us) was the right decision.  BUT - why are we still in a state of emergency? What is the emergency? The government has "gone early & gone hard" and gone on attack. 

It is time to change tack - lets stop the attack & move to defense.  The source needs to be contained - 14 days quarantine at the border should be enough as  a front line defense.  If someone tests positive or has symptoms - they need to quarantine - we should all do this for the normal flu too, but hardly anyone ever does! Obviously anyone with compromised immune systems also needs to be careful - they know that & can make their own wise decisions.
That should be it - all these other restrictions and laws imposed are against our human rights and someone needs to stand up & buck against it.  In fact those who also feel this rumbling or disquiet needs to stand & not allow the government & media to carry on with this craziness.

I love the idea of family spending time together, home cooked meals, and a slower pace of life.  I fully believe this should be normal, so that has contributed to my feeling of being torn. I have partially agreed with a forced lock down because of these positive spin offs & I totally hope people don't forget this too soon & these values do start to become more of a normal.

I know that this is all only my opinion & I probably don't have any or all of my facts straight or right & I also know I will have a lot of people disagreeing with me or even hating what I have said.  I think I can handle that (maybe) but what I also do know is that there are people out there hurting real bad & not from a virus that a very small amount of people in our country has. They are hurting from the inability to put food on their table, or keep their staff employed, or handle their emotions, or plan for the future, or say goodbye to their loved ones. 

Its time to lift the restrictions.



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17 September 2015

Week 6

Halfway through our 12 week challenge! It has been quite a lot harder this week as I still have this nasty flu/cough and haven't really had the energy to do anything!
I have been meaning to try a few new recipes (but don't really feel game for the inevitable FAIL before the try again & hopeful win!) & also to make our own hummus, mayo & ketchup supplies but to no avail.  I have also found it hard to carry on the walking - so am taking a break - hopefully better soon!

Though, I have been looking & researching were to source/buy cheaper & bulk amounts of tapioca flour, almond flour & also brown rice flour, as I want to start using that in Phase 3.  I am interested in trying out a sourdough bread & pasta.  At the moment Bin Inn plus a few traders on trademe have the cheapest prices - some as cheap as $4-5 a kilo.  Just need to source it without the transport cost!

RECIPE WIN
1.  Banana Bread - I thought I would give this a go & it was really nice.  I especially liked it when it had cooled down & I could slather it in butter.  I also substituted the shortening in the recipe for butter. 


RECIPES to TRY this week (that I didn't get to last week - AGAIN!) plus some new ones to attempt...
1.  Coconut yoghurt
2.  Israeli Salad
3.  Naan bread
4.  Cloud Bread
5.  Brownie - berry one
6.  Brownie - although it has coconut sugar in it!
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7 September 2015

Week 5

I wasn't even sure if I would make it this far - but we have & I am amazed - but also more determined to keep going! I have now lost between 6-7kg & that helps to spur me on.  I also feel better (although I have just been sick!) in that I am not so tired & I also think my teeth are whiter! Random - but I suppose that has to do with the sugar (or lack of it).
  
RECIPE WIN
1.Pizza - made with almond & tapioca flour.  I mostly liked this, but Jon liked it ALOT - it was gone in 5 mins.   


Not much else happened this week, except I made up a list of 7 meals that I am happy with during the week - I would like to extend this to about 10-12 as then I don't get too sick of the same thing each week.  I would like to get it so that these are my easy "go to" meals. 

GO TO MEALS:
1.  Chicken curry (Korma paste has no sugar) with roast kumara, peas & beans
2.  Broccoli & other vege casserole with chicken (last week's recipe)
3.  Mince Bolognese (with carrot & other vege) stuffed into a hollowed out zucchini, butternut, potato or kumara
4. Chicken drumsticks/Lamb Chops/Steak with potato wedges & coleslaw or salad
5.  Curried sausages with peas & mashed spud & pumpkin/kumara
6.  Tuna cakes/friend fish/baked salmon & salad
7.  Pizza or Wraps - both require a bit more work but are nice treats



RECIPES to TRY this week (that I didn't get to last week - AGAIN!) plus some new ones to attempt...
1.  Coconut yoghurt
2.  Israeli Salad
3.  Naan bread
4.  Cloud Bread



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2 September 2015

Week 4

Wow - Phase 1 done & dusted! It went fast  The first 10 days were definitely the hardest & now it seems we are in the swing of things.  Potato eating on the weekend wasn't that exciting! We were at a conference for the weekend, so I think we managed pretty well with very minimal (unavoidable) cheating. 

I have lost about 1kg this week, and now its about a total of 6kg or more that I have lost from the beginning of this diet! YAY

I have not done much experimenting in the kitchen this week - I have either been away or very busy. 
Just a pointer before I go onto the recipes - I have realised that making my own stuff means that it doesn't last as long - either it gets devoured - or it goes off a lot quicker than store bought.  I unfortunately had to throw out my tomato sauce as it was becoming tomato wine! Next time I will make a smaller batch!

RECIPE OK
1.  Meatballs - made with mince, egg & a bit of almond flour.  I also added some flavours/spices.  I'm just not sure if I liked both the texture & the taste.  I think if I had eaten them hot with nice sauce, then that would have enhanced the experience. 

  
RECIPE WIN
1.  Stuffed butternuts & zucchini.  This was a recipe I adapted/made up.  I made a mince/spag bol mix up with tin tomatoes & grated carrot etc.  I then hollowed out both zucchinis & butternuts & put the mince mix into these, sprinkled with chees & then baked.  These were awesome & had some leftover for lunches the next day. 
2.   Broccoli & chicken bake/casserole  - this was really yummy & very easy to make.  I used fresh chicken breasts, no mushrooms & I couldn't get stock without sugar in it, so just used water.  It was nice :-)
Sorry - no pics this week! 

RECIPES to TRY this week (that I didn't get to last week - AGAIN!)
1.  Coconut yoghurt
2.  Israeli Salad
3.  Scotch Eggs - will have to substitute pork mince for ??
4.  Sausage patties for breakfast
5.  Naan bread
6.  Choc slice

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25 August 2015

Week 3

I can't believe we have completed week 3 & into our 4th week - the last one in Phase One - next week I can eat potatoes :-)

So this week has consisted of probably an equal amount of wins & fails in the kitchen - so that's mor encouraging than last week!
I have only lost about 1kg this week, but at least it is still going down.  I think we are starting to enjoy more and more now the changes & the food we are eating. 

So here's for some of the recipes...

RECIPE FAILS
1.  Lemon bars - again the taste of coconut in the base was just to much - am pretty much going to not try anymore recipes that have coconut flour in them!

RECIPE OK'S (but need work)
1.  Apple crumble - tasted too floury - would take out the coconut flour (surprise, surprise!) and add in shredded coconut.  I think it would be fine with just that, almond flour, butter & sliced almonds.  (I didn't measure anything!)
 
RECIPE WIN
1.  Tortilla (flatbread) - got a smaller frypan & had awesome success with these.  Wrapped up chicken & avocado & salad in these - YUM!
2.  Kombucha - after trialling the 3 flavours - the ginger came out as the best, so only did flavour again that this week. 
2.  Mayo - this was a fail to start with as I used extra virgin olive oil instead of the light it called for in the recipe.  When I used the right stuff it was awesome.  Added some garlic to it too - was very nice with avocado in these eggs for lunch. 
3.  Tuna Cakes - I thought these weren't going to work as they were quite runny - but these were awesome & my husband ate all of them! (I had intended on saving some for the next day's lunch!)
4.  Lemon slice - I made this recipe up myself & was very stoked that it tasted nice.  Basically the base was 1 cup each of coconut (shredded) & almond flour, 75g of butter melted & some honey pus lemon zest.  I pressed that in & refrigerated - then whipped up 250g of cream cheese, 75g of butter & some honey. And half a lemon of juice plus zest.  Then spread that over the base & refrigerated again. 
5.  Hummus - this was a piece of cake to make & will definitely make this regularly. 

RECIPES to TRY this week (that I didn't get to last week)
1.  Coconut yoghurt
2.  Israeli Salad
3.  Scotch Eggs - will have to substitute pork mince for ??
4.  Sausage patties for breakfast
5.  Naan bread
6.  Choc slice
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17 August 2015

Week One & Two

Our first week was rather boring & consisted of following the diet prescribed menu without much creativity - getting my head around it & surviving with a weight loss of about 4kg! YAY

Week two - found me getting a bit bored with the same old, so started to experiment with some new recipes.  Some were disasters - others I have improved on, and some have been ok. 
So to start here are some ingredient links of stuff I have bought to help in the process...

INGREDIENTS
Protein Powder - for smoothies from Protein NZ - made sure it was the Whey Isolate & we got the vanilla flavour.  This is a great addition to our yoghurt & berry smoothies we have for breakfast. 

Supplements - Multi vitamins and Fucoxanthin from iHeal Trademe Store

RECIPE FAILS
These recipes worked but tasted yuk - I have decided that I don't really like the texture of coconut flour...and that tapioca flour makes things slimy.

1.  English muffins - passable but not really that nice
2.  Choc muffins - Jon liked them - very strong bitter taste - maybe too much cocoa & need more honey/sweetener
3.  Protein pancakes - tasted eggy - not nice (they looked so nice in the pic - but I couldn't stomach them!)

RECIPE OK'S (but need work)
1.  Falafal - wouldn't stick together without flour (& I think I then added too much!)
2.  Tortilla (flatbread) - needed a smaller frying pan as really hard to flip - but otherwise a WIN! I think this is where tapioca flour comes into its own. 
3.  Waffles - I liked these - but again the coconut flour was quite dominant

RECIPE WIN
1.  Kombucha - trialling 3 flavours this week (chai, ginger & cinnamon)
2.  Ketchup - sugar free (my own concoction)

RECIPES to TRY this week
1.  Coconut yoghurt
2.  Israeli Salad
3.  Homemade Mayo
4. Scotch Eggs - will have to substitute pork mince for ??
5.  Tuna Cakes
6. Sausage patties for breakfast
7.  Naan bread
8.  Choc slice




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RE - NEW (begin again)

2 years since I last posted - I wonder if that has any coincidence with the fact that I started a business and no longer have much free time on my hands!

Within the last year I have certainly not felt any urge to write at all.  Starting this time last year was a string of events that have really taken its toll & affected our lives quite a bit. To start, our church had a rather nasty split, which resulted in us leaving,  a month or so later Jon quit his job, a few weeks later we found out our pregnancy was not progressing, a couple of weeks after that Jon sunk the kayak & got rescued at sea, a week later his Dad passed away suddenly, then a couple of weeks after that I miscarried while we were on holiday in Sydney & ended up in hospital for a D&C.  We were reeling - it was a tough time.  Then a few months later the last frozen embryo was put in, but was unsuccessful - signalling to us, that our precious Gabriella would most likely be an only child. 

1 year on from the beginning of these tumultuous events we are beginning to find ourselves starting to find our feet again.  We are re-dreaming, re-gaining energy, re-establishing, re-newing & re-freshing lots of things in our house & lives.  One of those things has been our diet, weight & fitness.
It has been half-hearted within the past couple of years,  but got to the point where I need to do something to arrest the growing weight, aches & pains within my body. 

So to start I read "The Maker's Diet for Weight Loss" and we started 2 weeks ago the beginning of a 16 week diet challenge.  It has been a steep learning curve & quite difficult but I am learning along the way & now starting to enjoy it.  As I have been searching for new recipes and ideas, I have come across some good blogs of people who have embarked on something similar and documented the recipes and food that they have eaten - most of these are really good & have helped me a lot, so I thought I too could pass on what I have learnt & good recipes while I document how we go on this new journey.  I will try & post each week the recipes that have worked for me, those that have been a flop, some lifestyle changes and my progress!
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15 August 2013

Coping, adjusting & living

It has been a week now since we arrived back into the country.  It has really taken me awhile to adjust, not only physically (jet lag & tiredness) but also culturally & emotionally.  It seems strange.  Life seems weird.  It also seems kinda boring, yet un-doable, same old boring yet really busy.  I can't really put my finger on it just yet, but there is a restlessness -- a wanting more, unsatisfied with now. But maybe my call for now is to enjoy life fully in the present & for me to be the change.  That's my challenge & taking one day at a time...each step the light for my path comes with me & I know that God will reveal where & what to next as He wishes.
Two posts that I have read today really hit the spot.  The first "When feeling overwhelmed doesnt go away".  I really liked this bit:
Perhaps one of the greatest hindrances to our contentment is the expectation that life ought to be easy.
Then:
He is not looking to WHEN to have joy in the circumstances, but WHO to go to in the midst of them.

Life isnt easy -- get over it! And enjoy!

Then the next post was "How to have the best Birthday, the best today, the best any day".
And although this is long & about the authors birthday challenge, the bit I liked was:

It takes ridiculous courage to reach out of your comfort zone.
And then you might catch his eye and say — What if the truth is: every comfort zone is really a death trap.”
That every comfort zone is the zone where you get comfortably cooked. That every comfort zone is where you’re the proverbial frog slowly cooked to death in oh, such comfortable water.
Get out of your comfort zone to comfort others — and the Comforter meets you there with more comfort than you can imagine.   

Food for thought...
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10 August 2013

Life & Sudoku

As I pondered the fact that it is annoying to have more questions than answers Jay commented to me that sometimes it feels as though your life is like a game of sudoku. 

I enjoy playing sudoku & I even more enjoy beating Jon while playing (we used to have timed games & see who could complete it the fastest!) even though it is a game of logic & generally I sux at anything logical. (Secretly I think I'm quite a logical person but that it just takes me some out loud crazy thoughts to get to the right logical conclusion!)

Sudoku by logical deduction & reasoning allows you to place numbers in little boxes. Similarly it feels as though our life is often like that. Some numbers (or decisions) are obvious by way of elimination yet others require previous numbers to fall into place first before you are able to see where they go. Others require a whole lot more thought process and often by a huge amount of deduction, reasoning and differing  perspective are you then able to place a key number which helps the rest all fall into place. Sometimes too you are fairly certain that you have a choice of just 2 options for one box but again you are waiting on other situations to help clear up which of those two is right. 

As we have taken 6 weeks to go back to Ukraine & assess our life there it seems we have come back with some numbers sorted out but with a lot more question marks or possibilities in other squares. It seems as though now it is a waiting game & seeing how God guides & moves other boxes around as to the certainty of the next number which in turn will bring other things clearer & more sure. 

Sudoku is not subjective -- there is only one right answer for each box. Sometimes you wish life would be like that -- an absolute for each decision -- but who really wants to be a square person with numbers all in the right sequence?






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1 August 2013

Change & moving

These past few weeks have been rather emotional as we have been back in our house here in Ukraine. It has been hard but good, sad yet happy. We had heard of brokenness & victories. Life has moved on for us & people we know here (that is normal!)
As we near the end of our time here we have been trying to reflect of what God wants us to do.
Should we try to sell the house? Do we want to move back here? What is a call? How are missionaries effective? We have had lots of discussions with many people & our brains are full with conflicting thoughts.
Today bought some clarity for me. As I was listening to the Audio Adrenaline song
"He moves, you move" it started to get me thinking...
We need to wait for God to move. The last instruction we had received was to go home & have kids. We have not yet received any other or the next instruction. The pillar of fire is still above this house in Ukraine & in NZ. We are waiting & still fulfilling the last instruction.
While we wait we need to be busy carrying on with life & learning & growing & making the most of every opportunity. Not waiting & wasting but waiting & growing.
Conclusions while here:
1.  Back to NZ for another term (2-3 years)
2.  Most probably not back to serve in Rzhyshchiv
3.  Need to have project (most probably linked with camping) to come back to.
Although many things seem to be still up in the air, this small seed has given me some sort of hope that we are on the right track -- we don't need to see the full path ahead -- just trusting one step at a time.
God gives us light enough to guide our way not a massive spotlight to reveal to the end of time -- kinda glad about that!


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25 June 2013

Life's Good -- LG

It's not about having everything 
It's about being & living & pushing through & loving & giving & getting up to go again. It's about believing & seeing from a different perspective. It's about doing small things & hard things. It's about the actual grind of life & transforming the everyday numbness into the everyday moments. Fairy tales & fictitious stories are just that. Feel good loveliness but no substance of day to day real life. The way your life is portrayed to others can so often be a pretense, an outward appearance of having it all together, because who wants to look like you haven't made it or are struggling. But the truth be told we are all the same -- mere mortals who all struggle, some are just better actors at hiding it than others. Comparison with others is the greatest killer of hope. 
Hope that as a small seed there is a chance. Hope that even though its not like the others it's still ok. Hope that with what I have, who I am & giving it a go life will become the story of fulfillment without regrets. 



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20 June 2013

Housework: Whose job?

Not long after we were married we meet a couple whose premise was, "If you are both working fulltime, then $20-$30 a week for sometime to clean your house is not much for the weekend relaxation & peace of mind it gives -- especially for the wife!"  We both thought this was a great idea & although only once in our lives so far have we done this, I must admit, it was really nice when it happened.
As you know I have been thinking a bit lately about productivity & the new role I find myself in as a stay at home Mum.  It is a role & job & I have heard often the classic -- "Mothering is a fulltime 24/7 job, you are a counsellor, teacher, nurse, taxi driver, you do this & that & whatever, lade da de da."  I dont disagree with that but at the same time it makes me cringe because it seems as though it comes from the need to justify your work & make yourself feel a bit better about a job that no one really likes to do.  I wonder if we have our thinking a bit out of whack on this one.
I read this article the other day "Strong marriages depend on dad's involvement with kids and chores."  I enjoyed what it had to say & got me thinking back to paying for a housekeeper if you are working fulltime.  I also was reflecting on another article " Motherhood is a calling & where your children rank"  and although I dont fully agree with everything in either articles it really made me wonder about how we view being a stay at home Mum.
Here's where I am heading...  My job used to be school teaching.  I would be at school from about 8-4 (approx) each day (or the days I worked).  I would sometimes have extra work to do but mostly my job fitted within those hours.  Before & after school my life consisted of pretty normal things such as grocery shopping, cooking & general living stuff.  I would also have hobbies, time with friends, volunteering in the community & down time relaxing.
Said no one ever!
Now I have changed careers -- I am now instead of a school teacher a mother.  I am with my child for about (at the moment) 8-10 or so hours a day (the rest she is sleeping) and in those hours I have differing tasks that need completing & stuff that needs to happen -- that is my job.  It does seem a lot longer hours than I am used to, but like any new job it takes awhile to adjust to & learn the ropes.  The rest of my life should still have the other things in it, like it used to.
My job is not to keep the house clean, or finish all the washing or make sure the loo is cleaned & baking is in the tin -- these are things that I do because it is part of my general living stuff.  If my fulltime job (being a Mum) gets in the way of these things, then maybe we need to look at hiring some one for a few hours a week.
Maybe for some this is no big deal -- but for me this is a new way of thinking, a revelation that has changed the way I perceive what I do.  I hate cleaning & would never voluntarily become a cleaner -- and being a stay at home Mum is not that -- I am a mother -- that is my role/job.  I find this rather freeing & helps me to see my day in a different light.  And just in case you are wondering -- I love my new job :-)
Well that's what I reckon -- what do you think?




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16 June 2013

Eclectic Links

Another lot of random links coming your way.
With cleaning out my closet & selling extra stuff around the house, it seems to have a "de-clutter" theme this week!

1.  Living with less
Getting more stuff means you need more stuff & more problems -- this guy learnt this in an interesting way!

2.  Getting rid of 6 things
Keeping on this same topic, this article has some interesting points -- not sure if I could get rid of these 6 things but how did we ever live without these only about 10 years ago??

3.  The Taco is Amazing
Another interesting post from Jamie -- we often need to loosen our grip on life -- I like that! :-)

4.  I don't wait anymore
Interesting angle on purity... "When I was 16, I got a purity ring.  And when I was 25, I took it off."  

5.  Book Depository -- free delivery worldwide!
I am an affiliate of the Book Depository, so if you are thinking about buying any books online -- they are having a big sale this coming week & if you click through to their site from this blog then whatever you purchase gives me a commission! That's nice of you -- thanks :-)

6.  Bible v Cellphone
I stole this from someone's status on Facebook, because I thought it was really good: 
Ever wonder what would happen if we treated our Bible like we treat our cell phone? 
What if we carried it around in our purses or pockets? 
What if we flipped through it several time a day? 
What if we turned back to go get it if we forgot it?
What if we used it to receive messages from the text? 
What if we treated it like we couldn't live without it?
What if we gave it to kids as gifts?
What if we used it when we traveled?
What if we used it in case of emergency?
This is something to make you go....hmm...where is my Bible?
Oh, and one more thing. Unlike our cell phone, we don't have to worry about our Bible being disconnected because Jesus already paid the bill.
Makes you stop and think 'where are my priorities?' And no dropped calls!


7.  Three things I would like to make... & one crazy video
These are yummy!


Very cool fire pit :-)

I think I might have to learn to crochet









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14 June 2013

Today's score

Well today's productivity score (see last post for reference) would probably be a 4/10 based on external factors! After a 3:30am wakeup that never really ended (unusual fro Gabriella) there has not been a lot of energy or excitement about today! On my to-do list was the sheets, baby's washing, finish painting the bookcase, plunket visit & make more of baby's food -- of which I have accomplished two!
I am wondering if our minds/society/education & schooling have us so hard wired into extrinsic or external benefits.  I do a job because I get paid or because someone can notice it & pat me on the back.  Doing stuff for only intrinsic or long term gain is that much harder to get motivated for.
I'm still in the process of trying to figure out a new way of scoring productivity -- any ideas?  
Also thought about what our society & culture has as expectations toward mothers -- I am interested in studying this a bit more as to why so many mothers I have talked to over the space of my adult life & how many blogs & facebook followers that are mothers who struggle with the baby/toddler years & being "stuck at home."  Has this been the case for other generations & cultures? What do we as a community & culture expect that produces these frustrations?
On the video I blogged yesterday talked about feeling isolated.  Yesterday for me I spent the day with people coming in & out of our home, feeding & hosting them, chilling around the fire (or heating up actually) and just spending some good quality time.  It felt good and although I wouldnt want that all day every day, I wonder if we as a society have walled ourselves off from normal "village" life.  Part of me would love the community & relationships that develop from living in a commune, marae, village or extended family situation.
Be interested in your thoughts...leave a comment if you wish :-)

While you are thinking about it have a look at this for a laugh

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13 June 2013

The productivity curse

There is no preparation for being a stay at home Mum.  It is something I have always wanted to be & so thankful that I can now be one.  But the reality is so very different from the ideal (another post brewing on this particular topic -- watch this space).
I have at other times in my life not been able to get a job, or only worked part-time but all of these have been short-lived & I have filled the time in many differing ways.
I'm not saying that now I am a stay at home Mum that I have oodles (love that word) of time on my hands, but I do find myself stuck in a "productivity" mindset.  I have always been a " to do list" kind of person, so nothing has changed there, but now that I am scraping the barrel on my list & the jobs are getting less & less interesting, challenging, or desirable (ie stuff I just keep putting off but needs to be done -- such as sorting out the photo albums!) my days are getting to become rather routine & boring!
Here's a great video that addresses all of that...
I love to be creative, to be busy & do stuff.  I love to re-engineer situations & make chaos into order.  This satisfies me & makes me feel "productive." If my day consists of washing, fiddling on the computer, cooking, feeding & not much else (often because I don't feel like doing much else) then I have to deal with my thought processes of not being productive.  Maybe this is an overly strong work ethic (hmm on second thoughts, I don't think I have that disease!) or the way I was bought up (idle hands create mischief) or a case of listening to myself instead of talking to myself, but maybe also I need to define what "productive" is so the guilts don't kick in & each day can be a productive day for me.

pro·duc·tiv·i·ty

  [proh-duhk-tiv-i-tee, prod-uhk‐]  Show IPA
noun
1.
the quality, state, or fact of being able to generate, create, enhance, or bring forth goods and services: The productivity of the group's effort surprised everyone.
2.
Economics the rate at which goods and services having exchange value are brought forth or producedProductivity increased dramatically last year.   

When I use this definition I don't feel like most days are productive.  When I searched the internet & found "7 drivers of workplace productivity"  the seventh one really struck a chord with me.  It was "measuring what matters."  Re-defining productive as measuring what matters I think is a great revelation to help me see each day as productive.
So what does matter?
1.  My baby is feed, happy, loved, trained, clean, extended, provided for & safe.
2.  Our home is clean, happy, welcoming, mostly tidy, warm & safe.
3.  Our marriage is feed, nurtured, not taken for granted & fun.
4.  I have some creative outlets that extend my brain & I have some thing to show for it.

I dunno, have I missed something?  Am I on the right track?  Will this redefinition actually help me to see things in a different light?  Can I turn this into a to-do list so I can visually cross things off?


Does productivity need to be measured in "what did you do today?"  Do productive things show up over time rather than in day increments?  Does productivity have to be seen?



 Is life made up of doing small things & hard things?
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7 June 2013

Eclectic Links

1.  Was interested in reading this column in our local paper this week -- the breakfast (or food in schools) debate has me in two minds & I thought this guy addressed it well.  It also got me thinking about maybe re-training as a social worker...I know I think about re-training as something every year but ya never know...


2.  I have spent a bit of time working on the camp website updating the banner & logo and style.  I'm not yet 100% happy with it, but it is lots better than it was.  You can check it out here...www.lonsdalechildren.blogspot.com 

3.  I fell down the stairs on Monday -- was really sore -- but thankfully only hurt my ankle & got a huge bruise on my thigh!  Been putting RealDealHurtCream on it & has started to heal up really well.  Could have been so much worse.
4.  This is a fascinating article about what the Finnish government give each expecting mother.  It would be cool to plot the contents in image form & discuss the ideology over time.  

5.  McDonalds has failed in Bolivia because their idea of food is that it is slowly & lovingly made! Awesome :-)

6. Colin Meads who received a Queens Bday honour offers young 5 life lessons.  I especially like his first & last one -- some good advice.  

7.  A few funny you tube videos to finish the week off...
NZ TV Advertisement featuring one of my students from last year
Makes you think about "short term missions" Helping Africa?

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5 June 2013

My thoughts

Today I look back & choose thankfulness...
Gods faithfulness & love
The direction & choices my life has taken
My life partner -- our children
Gods blessing
Our health & wealth
Passion & vision

I look forward & choose increase...
In Gods work
In our family
In our influence -- salt & light
In our intentional living 
In our marriage 
In the impossible 



I pause now to enjoy the small things that are the sum of fruitfulness...

For its in the little parts, the moments, the every day mundane things that our course is continually set, our attitude developed & sails trimmed as we journey through life.
Choosing to pause & enjoy the small things which are the sum of fruitfulness, rather than looking for the next thing or thrill -- life is good NOW!
In all of our insignificance, we & all we do plays a significant part in the whole picture -- life in PERSPECTIVE. 
We build precept upon precept & day upon day as we choose. Each time the choice makes a mark & moves us more toward the outcome -- life is INTENTIONAL. 
Choose the outcome but also choose each day to live in the light of the goal. With both things held in tension the small affects the big & the big affects the small. Little becomes big, big is broken down into little. All of it is a choice through which the impossible can be achieved. 
Life is a CHOICE -- to enjoy & make the most of :-)

"Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." -- Robert Brault

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30 May 2013

4-6 months

Preparing for camp, camp & the aftermath of camp! Plus a visit from the Deacons over Easter. Gabriella started sleeping in her own bed for both day & night time sleeps.  She has started solids, and is now down to only 2 & a half  sleeps during the day time.


She can pretty much sit up by herself, although the rolling isn't really established.  She is talking & smiling a lot & shadows fascinate her. Random :-)  Her giggle is pretty cool too :-)



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Some new ideas & hobbies

Well with our last camp done & dusted, my  "to-do list" has definitely dwindled down to just stuff that is on there but I don't really want or is pressing to do!
So with the weather getting colder, the fire more frequent I think its time I selected some more hobbies to keep me from getting bored & annoying the whole world! (O and also spending money online shopping!)

So I think I will take up knitting -- no don't laugh I'm serious!  It seems that everyone I see knitting just does it while life happens around them & then you have this cool thing done before you even know it!  Plus I believe in the power of wool & if I make stuff for Gabby it is small & shouldn't take me so long.  Well that's my logic anyway!
I wonder if I should start with something like this...

The other thing I want to start is playing the ukulele.  Irene gave one to Gabriella the other day at cell group & she was fascinated by it.  So the next day I got our one out & thought that I should really learn to play this thing -- how hard can it be.  So the race is on now, will I master 3 chords & a few songs before Gabby or will she beat me to it?

Any patterns or tips to help me in these endeavours would be much appreciated :-)
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