As you know I have been thinking a bit lately about productivity & the new role I find myself in as a stay at home Mum. It is a role & job & I have heard often the classic -- "Mothering is a fulltime 24/7 job, you are a counsellor, teacher, nurse, taxi driver, you do this & that & whatever, lade da de da." I dont disagree with that but at the same time it makes me cringe because it seems as though it comes from the need to justify your work & make yourself feel a bit better about a job that no one really likes to do. I wonder if we have our thinking a bit out of whack on this one.
I read this article the other day "Strong marriages depend on dad's involvement with kids and chores." I enjoyed what it had to say & got me thinking back to paying for a housekeeper if you are working fulltime. I also was reflecting on another article " Motherhood is a calling & where your children rank" and although I dont fully agree with everything in either articles it really made me wonder about how we view being a stay at home Mum.
Here's where I am heading... My job used to be school teaching. I would be at school from about 8-4 (approx) each day (or the days I worked). I would sometimes have extra work to do but mostly my job fitted within those hours. Before & after school my life consisted of pretty normal things such as grocery shopping, cooking & general living stuff. I would also have hobbies, time with friends, volunteering in the community & down time relaxing.
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My job is not to keep the house clean, or finish all the washing or make sure the loo is cleaned & baking is in the tin -- these are things that I do because it is part of my general living stuff. If my fulltime job (being a Mum) gets in the way of these things, then maybe we need to look at hiring some one for a few hours a week.
Maybe for some this is no big deal -- but for me this is a new way of thinking, a revelation that has changed the way I perceive what I do. I hate cleaning & would never voluntarily become a cleaner -- and being a stay at home Mum is not that -- I am a mother -- that is my role/job. I find this rather freeing & helps me to see my day in a different light. And just in case you are wondering -- I love my new job :-)
Well that's what I reckon -- what do you think?
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